by Trudy Shines | Sep 6, 2024 | Uncategorized
Our vintage family photos generated using AI pic created by pic created by Frank Shines
Presentism and Historical Trauma As a descendant of Cherokee, Choctaw, English, and African American (and much more) heritage, my family’s journey reflects the deep scars left by historical injustices. đž The Stroud familyâs migration from Oklahoma to Colorado Springs as part of the Trail of Tears, alongside the resilience born from the Emancipation Proclamation, has shaped our legacy. These stories carry both pain and the potential for transformation. Through my work in transformational wellness, I help others honor the past without being trapped by it. đ
What is Presentism? Presentism is when we judge historical events through the lens of modern values. đ Imagine driving through a neighborhood where the speed limit is 20 mph. Suddenly, the limit changes to 10 mph, and you receive a retroactive ticket for speeding based on the new rule. đđ¨ Thatâs how presentism worksâjudging the past with todayâs rules. History, however, is more complex than that. We canât erase it or change it by tearing down statues or rewriting narratives. đď¸
The Changing Nature of Judgment and Childhood When I was young, we describedkids who misbehaved as “mischievous.” đ We didnât go to jail for it; we were given chances to learn and grow. But today, many young people face harsh punishments for actions that used to be seen as part of growing up. We made mistakes too, but we werenât jailed for them. Today, it’s important to recognize that we all evolve over time, and our mistakes should serve as lessons, not life sentences. đ
Transformational Wellness: Healing Through Understanding and Growth In my role as a Transformational Wellness Coach, I guide my clients through the process of healing from past trauma. đ¸ By incorporating mindfulness, meditation, and energy healing through chakra alignment, we learn to release the weight of generational pain and past missteps. đ§đ˝ââď¸ Itâs not about dwelling on past mistakesâitâs about saying âyesâ to the possibility of healing and renewal. đ
From Historical Trauma to Personal Transformation The journey of my family, from the Trail of Tears to a thriving life in Colorado, reminds us that we can transform hardship into strength. đ The past is a part of who we are, but it doesnât have to define us. Transformational wellness allows us to heal and create a more compassionate, loving future. đ By releasing the grip of presentism, we can step into a life of resilience and growth.
Conclusion: Honoring the Past, Embracing the Future Our history doesnât need to be rewritten or torn downâit needs to be understood. đ Through transformational wellness, we find the tools to heal from the trauma of the past and step into a future filled with strength and compassion. By honoring our journey, we release what no longer serves us and embrace the power to transform and thrive. đżâ¨
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by Trudy Shines | Aug 3, 2024 | Uncategorized
Recognizing SMA Awareness Month: Understanding the Deep-Seated Trauma of Living with SMA
Introduction
Hello, fellow trauma survivors. As your Radiant Coach, I want to take this opportunity to discuss something incredibly importantâSpinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA). August is SMA Awareness Month, and itâs crucial that we shine a light on both the physical and emotional challenges faced by those living with SMA. Together, we can raise awareness, provide support, and emphasize the importance of understanding the deep-seated trauma associated with this condition. As someone who has lost close family members, including my mother and sisters, to the incurable Huntingtonâs disease, I deeply empathize with the struggles faced by those living with SMA.
What is SMA?
Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) is a genetic disorder that profoundly impacts individuals, causing the loss of motor neurons and leading to muscle weakness and atrophy. This condition affects essential functions like breathing, eating, crawling, and walking. Though relatively rare, with about 1 in 50 people being genetic carriers, the impact on those affected is significant.
Types of SMA
- Type 1: This is the most severe form. Babies with Type 1 SMA have weak muscles and significant difficulties with breathing and swallowing. It is typically diagnosed within the first six months of life.
- Type 2: Children with Type 2 SMA can sit independently but cannot stand or walk without support. Symptoms usually appear between 6 and 18 months of age.
- Type 3: Also known as Kugelberg-Welander disease, this type is milder. Individuals with Type 3 can walk but may require assistance as they grow older. Symptoms generally appear after 18 months of age.
- Type 4: This is the mildest form, with symptoms starting in adulthood. People with Type 4 SMA experience mild to moderate muscle weakness.
Treatment and Management
While there is currently no cure for SMA, several treatments can help manage the condition and improve quality of life.
- Breathing Aids: For those with severe respiratory involvement, breathing aids can assist with breathing and reduce the risk of respiratory infections.
- Medications: Drugs like Spinraza (nusinersen) have shown promise in treating SMA by increasing the production of a protein essential for motor neuron health.
- Gene Therapy: Emerging treatments, such as gene therapy, offer hope for many individuals with SMA. These treatments aim to address the genetic root of the condition.
Cognitive and Social Impact
- Itâs essential to understand that SMA does not affect cognitive abilities.
- Individuals with SMA have the same capacity to think, learn, and build relationships as anyone else.
- This distinction is crucial in ensuring that those with SMA are not underestimated or misunderstood.
Mental Well-being and Trauma
- The chronic and progressive nature of SMA can have a significant traumatic effect on an individual’s mental well-being.
- Living with the constant challenges of SMA, alongside the knowledge of its incurability, can lead to emotional distress.
- This stress is compounded by the physical limitations imposed by the condition, which can affect self-esteem and overall quality of life.
Importance of Psychological Support
Providing psychological support and counseling is vital in helping individuals with SMA cope with the mental health challenges associated with the condition. Support groups, therapy, and mental health services can play a crucial role in improving the emotional well-being of those affected by SMA.
Importance of SMA Awareness Month
SMA Awareness Month is pivotal in raising awareness about this condition, fostering a better understanding, and advocating for more research and support. Increased awareness can lead to:
- Improved Research and Treatments: Greater awareness can drive funding and research efforts aimed at finding better treatments and, ultimately, a cure for SMA.
- Enhanced Support Systems: Awareness campaigns can help build stronger support systems for individuals and families affected by SMA, providing them with the resources and community they need.
- Empathy and Understanding: Educating the public about SMA can foster empathy and reduce the stigma associated with genetic conditions.
Lucie Carrasco: A Beacon of Hope
Lucie Carrasco, a renowned fashion stylist who suffers from spinal muscular atrophy, is an inspiring example of resilience and creativity.
Despite her condition, she has made significant contributions to the fashion industry. Lucie’s journey is a testament to the strength and determination of those living with SMA.
She has been a source of inspiration for many, showing that it is possible to achieve great success despite physical limitations.
Helpful Resources
For more information and support, consider visiting the following resources:
Cure SMA (https://www.curesma.org/)
Muscular Dystrophy Association (https://www.mda.org/)
National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke (https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/All-Disorders/Spinal-Muscular-Atrophy-Information-Page)
Conclusion
As we recognize SMA Awareness Month, letâs remember the importance of supporting those affected by this condition.
By raising awareness, advocating for research, and providing emotional and psychological support, we can make a significant difference in the lives of individuals living with SMA.
Together, we can help them navigate the physical and emotional challenges they face and promote a more inclusive and understanding society.
As someone who has witnessed the devastating effects of an incurable disease firsthand, I stand with you in solidarity and support.
by Trudy Shines | Jul 17, 2024 | Coach, Radiant Coach, Spiral Journey of Success, Trauma Survivors, Uncategorized
Lulu Magee Stroud (1882 – 1953), My great grandmother, was a woman of Creek Nation Native American ancestry, blended with Scandinavian and African lineage.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is a word we often hear, but do we truly understand its depth and complexity? From its Greek origins meaning “wound” to its profound impact on our lives, trauma shapes our experiences in ways both visible and unseen. But what exactly is trauma? Where does it come from, and why do we experience it? Can it be prevented, and is it always detrimental?
 In this exploration of trauma, we’ll delve into these questions and more. We’ll examine how trauma affects us psychologically and physically and discuss strategies for moving beyond mere survival to a state of thriving. As your Radiant Coach, I believe in the power of transforming traumatic experiences into catalysts for growth and positive change.
Join me as we unpack the concept of trauma, investigate its various forms, and discover pathways to healing. We’ll explore how acknowledging our past can empower our future, and how sharing our experiences can light the way for others. Whether you’re a trauma survivor, a supporter, or simply seeking to understand, this journey from surviving to thriving is one we can embark on together.
Understanding Trauma
Definition and Forms of Trauma
Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event such as an accident, crime, natural disaster, physical or emotional abuse, neglect, or witnessing violence. The term “trauma” originates from the Greek word for “wound,” emphasizing its impact on both mind and body. Trauma can be categorized into three main types:
 1.  Acute Trauma: Results from a single incident, such as a car accident or natural disaster.
2.  Chronic Trauma: Involves repeated and prolonged exposure to highly stressful events, such as ongoing abuse or domestic violence.
3.  Complex Trauma: Exposure to multiple traumatic events, often of an interpersonal nature, like childhood abuse.
The effects of trauma can be long-lasting, influencing our mental health, behavior, and overall well-being.
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Psychological Effects: Trauma can lead to anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), flashbacks, and other mental health issues.
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Physical Effects: Chronic pain, headaches, digestive issues, sleep problems, and other physical symptoms can manifest as a result of trauma.
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Behavioral Changes: Substance abuse, self-harm, and avoidance behaviors.
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Cognitive Impacts: Memory issues, difficulty concentrating, and negative self-perception.
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Statistics and Quotes: According to the National Center for PTSD, about 60% of men and 50% of women experience at least one trauma in their lives. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a leading expert in trauma research, states, “Trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body.”
The Path to Healing
The Concept and The Significance
Healing from trauma is a deeply personal and often non-linear journey. It involves moving from a state of merely surviving to thriving, where individuals use their experiences to grow and help others. See my article on The Spiral Journey to Success https://trudyshines.com/2024/06/3143/
Personal Stories
Real-life stories of trauma survivors can provide hope and inspiration. For instance, Shan, who was hit by a car and had a 6% chance of survival, celebrated her recovery with a ‘Stayinâ Alive’ party, demonstrating resilience and the power of community support.
Support Systems
Support systems play a crucial role in the healing process. Connecting with others, whether through support groups or trusted friends and family, can provide emotional support and practical advice.
Strategies for Healing
Actionable Strategies
1.  Acknowledge the Event: Accepting and acknowledging the traumatic event is the first step towards healing.
2.  Accept Support: Seek and accept support from loved ones and professionals (if I canât help, I have a network of people that I can refer you to).
3.  Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote physical and emotional well-being, such as exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep (see AJ DeDeaux â your sleep expert.
4.  Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: My energy practices help you work at these techniques one day at a time â they will help you manage anxiety and flashbacks by focusing on the present moment.
Mindfulness Practices
Trauma-informed mindfulness practices are adapted to the unique needs of trauma survivors. These practices help you manage your symptoms and helps you feel safer in your bodies (you have many hats/personalities/bodies that continue to guide you â use them).
Importance of Self-Care Routines
 Self-care routines self-care and self-love is not selfish and is essential for recovery. Activities like journaling, meditation, and engaging in hobbies can help individuals reconnect with themselves and their surroundings.
Developing a Positive Mindset
Developing a positive mindset involves focusing on you and believing and know that you have personal strengths â you wouldnât be here today if you didnât; they helping you set achievable goals. This helps you regain your sense of control and purpose in your life.
The Role of Professional Support
Professional support can be a cornerstone in the journey to healing from trauma.
Benefits of Professional Support
Professional support, such as therapy, can provide structured and effective ways to manage trauma. Therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) are particularly effective.
Testimonials from Clients
Hearing from clients who have benefited from professional support can offer hope and encouragement.
Many clients have shared positive experiences with professional support. For example, David, who suffered a traumatic brain injury, successfully returned to work as an IT security consultant after receiving extensive therapy.
Overview of My Services
As a Radiant Coach, I offer personalized coaching sessions, workshops, and resources designed to support trauma survivors in their journey from surviving to thriving.
Conclusion
Understanding trauma and its effects is the first step towards healing. By understanding trauma, seeking support, and engaging in self-care practices, survivors can not only heal but potentially experience growth and transformation.
Trauma is a complex and deeply personal experience, but recovery is possible.
If you’re struggling with the effects of trauma, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional helpâyou don’t have to face this alone.
Ready to start your journey from surviving to thriving? Contact me for a free consultation and let’s begin your path to healing together. Take the first step towards healing and thriving.
by Trudy Shines | Jul 9, 2024 | Chakra, Coach, I am, Radiant Coach, Uncategorized
Unraveling Trauma: The Power of Gentle Transformation
In the journey of healing and growth, the philosophy “Never cut what can be untied” holds profound wisdom. For trauma survivors, this metaphor becomes a guiding principle in the process of untangling the complexities of their experiences, leading them toward a radiant, thriving life. As a certified Radiant Coach for trauma survivors, I embrace this gentle approach, fostering resilience and transformation without severing the intricate threads of my clients’ pasts.
The Gentle Art of Untying
Understanding the Knots
Trauma survivors often carry deep-seated emotional knots, formed by past experiences of abuse, neglect, or hardship. These knots represent unresolved feelings, memories, and beliefs that can hinder their progress. Instead of forcefully cutting through these knots, my coaching philosophy focuses on understanding and gently untying them. This approach honors the survivor’s journey and acknowledges the significance of each knot in their story.
Patience and Compassion
Untying emotional knots requires patience and compassion. In my coaching practice, I create a safe and supportive space where clients can explore their traumas without fear of judgment. This process involves active listening, empathy, and validation of their experiences. By approaching their pain with kindness, clients gradually learn to untie their emotional knots, releasing the tension and embracing healing.
Building Resilience through Untangling – Rediscovering Joy
The journey of untying knots leads to rediscovering joy and purpose. Trauma survivors often struggle to find happiness and meaning in their lives. Through my coaching sessions, I guide clients in reconnecting with their passions and strengths, helping them to see beyond their trauma. This rediscovery process is like gently unraveling a tightly wound knot, allowing their true selves to shine through.
Shaping a Life of Meaning
As knots are untied, survivors gain clarity and a renewed sense of purpose. My coaching approach emphasizes setting achievable goals and creating a roadmap for personal and professional growth. This structured process helps clients build resilience and empowers them to shape a life of meaning. By untying the knots of their past, they can weave a future filled with hope and possibilities.
The Transformative Power of Coaching – Personalized Guidance
Every survivor’s journey is unique, and so are the knots they carry. My radiant coaching practice offers personalized guidance tailored to each client’s specific needs. Whether they are adults who were once at-risk youth, victims of sexual/spousal abuse, or military/war survivors, I provide the tools and support necessary for untying their emotional knots and achieving lasting transformation.
Integrating Energy Work
Incorporating chakra colors and energy work into my coaching practice further enhances the process of untying knots. By focusing on the energy centers within the body, clients can address pain points and pain bodies, facilitating deeper healing. This holistic approach aligns with the philosophy of never cutting what can be untied, promoting balance and harmony within the mind, body, and spirit.
Never Cut What Can Be Untied
The quote “Never cut what can be untied” is often attributed to Joseph Joubert, a French moralist and essayist. This serves as a powerful metaphor for my radiant coaching practice. By gently untying the emotional knots of trauma survivors, I help my clients build resilience, rediscover joy, and shape a life of meaning. This compassionate and patient approach honors their past while empowering them to thrive in the present and future. Together, we embark on a journey of healing, transformation, and radiant living.
